Funny thing change, we are petrified of change, yet we are terrified of staying the same. Change will occur many times in our lives, while tethered to the current, our lives are often dismantled and we have to put it back together. This can be with our lives, our relationships, our appearance, our homes, our jobs and many others.
Change can be difficult and fear tends to take the lead in our lives. I think for most of us, the scary part is the unknown. But in facing these challenges, that is where we continue to grow and evolve on our journey.
When we are faced with a time to change, this is an opportunity to have new experiences. It is a time of discomfort but it is essential. I know for me, I have been through many changes through the years, feeling a sense of loss, fear, regret, worry, and anxiety, not knowing that all these emotions would turn into excitement, happiness, peace and content.
It is easy to dwell on the negative emotions and we lose sight of what this change could do for us. Granted, some changes are not always a happy ending, sometimes these changes come with heartbreak, loss of job or home or even illness. There can be good and bad side to change but no matter the side it falls on, it will provide a chance to grow and experience.
I always refer to nature when it comes to our lives. There is so much to be learned from it. When I think of change, I think of snakes. I wrote a poem years ago about change during a hard time in my life when I was going through a lot of change that had all these heavy emotions that wanted to tag along.
we all must go through changes in our life
they won’t all be easy
some can be very difficult to endure
just as snakes shed their skin
multiple times in their lives
we must shed things in ours
they undergo many changes in that time
during this process they are very
uncomfortable, irritable and unproductive
it is a hard process even for them
but they have to do it
just as we have to go through challenging changes
they can’t get halfway out of their skin
and change their minds
they can’t back up into the skin they have
already began shedding
change is hard but we must do it
Thinking back on this poem, there is such truth in the challenges we face during these times, a lot of discomfort, unproductivity and at times doubt. The fear that we all feel throughout change is normal but we mustn't let that be the leading emotion. We can create a more difficult process when we dwell on the negative side of things.
When we are faced with a time to make a change or a change is forced upon us, we are responsible for how we emotionally handle it, which emotion we choose to guide the way. There is magnificent opportunities in times of change, a chance to better improve our lives. We may get to a point where we feel stagnant and change is necessary to get us out of that rut. These types of changes are the most exciting, the opportunities are endless if we keep a positive outlook and know that we have so many choices.
When times come that change is difficult and even heart wrenching, these tend to be the ones we grow the most from. Many things in our lives have been brought to an end over the years, friendships, relationships, some ripping our heart our, but now to think back, what a gift it was taking away what we once thought we couldn't live without. Here we are, living on.
I encourage you to remain positive in all forms of changes and take the lead in your life, reel in your emotions and take this time to grow. You are capable of more than you are aware of and can control how you handle changes and how it affects your life going forward. With all my love and light.
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